Therapy for the Patterns That Complicate Connection

People develop within relationships. Experiences of closeness, rejection, dependence, autonomy, trust, and repair often shape how we understand ourselves and what we expect from other people.

We look at what is happening for you individually and at the relationships, history, and context shaping it: family patterns, past partners, culture, community, identity, power, and the stories you were handed before you had much say in them. Because therapy is also a relationship, we may pay attention to what happens between us: what feels safe, what feels difficult, what gets assumed, and what changes when those patterns can be noticed in real time.

People do not come to therapy separate from the world they live in.

Identity, culture, family history, gender expectations, sexuality, race, class, disability, religion, health, discrimination, community, and power can all shape how people understand themselves, relate to others, and move through conflict, intimacy, trust, desire, safety, and repair. Context-aware therapy does not reduce every problem to systems, and it does not pretend systems are irrelevant.

I am committed to ongoing antiracist practice and to staying attentive to how identity, power, and history show up in the room. That includes listening closely to feedback, naming context when it matters, and treating this work as active clinical responsibility.

A problem rarely belongs entirely to one person.

Family history, culture, gender expectations, health, economic pressure, discrimination, community, and current relationships can all shape emotional and relational life.

Systemic therapy examines how those forces interact while holding each person responsible for the choices and behaviors that remain within their control.

Trauma can affect memory, emotional regulation, sexuality, attention, trust, and the ability to feel safe with other people.

Trauma-informed work respects the protective responses you developed and helps you build greater choice in the present.

You will not be pushed to disclose experiences before you are ready. Detailed retelling is not required for meaningful work.

Sexuality can involve pleasure, identity, vulnerability, anxiety, culture, health, shame, power, connection, conflict, and grief. Therapy gives us room to talk about those experiences directly and carefully, with attention to consent, autonomy, mutual respect, and accurate information.

I am a sex-positive, LGBTQIA+, kink, and consensually non-monogamous affirming therapist. I work with individuals, couples, and people in relationship structures that do not come with much cultural script.

You will not need to explain or justify the shape of your relationships here. We will focus on what is happening, what matters, what hurts, what needs to change, and what kind of relationship or life you are trying to build.

No single model accounts for every person or relationship.

My work draws from systemic and relational therapy, emotion-focused approaches, internal family systems concepts, narrative therapy, sex therapy, intersystems approach, Ex-PLISSIT model, sensate-focus principles, psychoeducation, and practical skills.

The method should serve the work. You should not have to fit yourself into a therapist’s preferred theory.